The other couple is more miserable having never fully dealt with each person’s needs and wants.
After narrowing their selection and deciding on their ideal match - they now help financially support these gals and do occasional vacations together. You’ll probably find exactly what you're looking for: just reality in a capitalistic society. Most are part-time cross dressers - but you’ll gain a far better understanding of the life and death of the transgender community.
If you return year after year - you tend to develop associations and friendships that might blossom into something more.
Some of the best and healthiest long-term unions I witnessed were guys who connected with and dated their transgender girlfriend when she just started her transition. First off, a “young” girl in trans-years - often means she still looks like a guy unless she’s to go further with the changes.
Thus, why don’t most guys into trans-women do just that?